When you have dreams and tell it to everybody around you, there will be people who discourage you along the way telling you that your dreams are too unrealistic, big and even ask you to stop dreaming.
I called this the dream busters. Who are actually the dream busters? There are 5 potential dream busters and let’s take a look at each one of them.
1. Family
Believe it or not, they are the closest people in your life and at the same time, they could be your dream busters too. It is not that they do it purposely but they just do not believe big dreams can be made possible.
It could be your dad, mum, sister or brother. When you tell them about your dreams, they will say that it is too unrealistic. I like the way Will Smith told his son in the movie “The Pursuit of Happyness”. Will Smith told his son in the movie that, “Do not let anybody tell you that you cannot do something, including me!”.
Wow!
2. Friends
I believe friends are as influential as your family members. Who you hang out with today will determine your future in the next 5 or 10 years. If you hang out with a bunch of sleazy and lazy people, you will eventually become like them in the future.
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Today I want to share with you 5 types of dreamers on earth. Take a close look at them and if you wish, please post me a comment on what kind of dream you are okay?
1. Those With No Dreams
It is interesting to know that there are actually people with no dreams. They just live to get by and waiting for the next day to come, just like that.
People under this category do not know what they want or have no desire to strive for better at all. They live out their lives in frustrationi, boredom and regret.
2. Those With Low Dreams
This group of people are slightly better. They just want a simple life with decent job, getting stable income, living peaceful and comfortable with little increment in life.
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Recently I have been exposed to this big word - Passion. Do you know anything about passion? What does it mean to be passionate about something? Also, how important do you think passion is?
I did not know until I was exposed to the importance of passion. Let me share with you what I have learned about passion. Ready? Let’s get started.
What is Passion?
Passion is the irresistable and boundless enthusiasm for your belief or action. In order to have passion towards certain thing, you will need to have an enthusiasm that cannot be hindered or affected in any given circumstances.
In other words, when you have passion towards something, you will eat, drink and sleep about it. You think about it all the time and often, the only thing that is going on your mind would usually be how to make it better and better and better and better.
For example, when you are passionate about your Italian restaurant, you will never stop thinking about how to make it better, how to provide more value to your customers and how to make it more comfortable for your customers to stay.
“If you don’t have passion, you don’t have energy and if you don’t have energy, you have nothing” - Donald Trump.
Passion can be further acknowledged with the following components - P.A.S.S.I.O.N.
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Fear is one of the biggest hindrances in things we do in life. I remember I was sending my auntie to the airport and during our journey, I tried to ask her questions about her business since she owns a business and doing very well in life.
She told me not to fear anything in things that we do. Even sometimes we see negative things lie ahead of us, fear not because it is nothing but something we imagine in our head to be real.
F - False
E - Evidence
A - Appearing
R - Real
My mum also made it a point to support my studies in Australia, even though she was not earning a lot more money. Of course, she did not go and cheat or rob the bank for more money.
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In case you do not know, 70% of the people on earth today is actually angry with something. Are you one of them? Are you angry with someone or something?
If I tell you that I am among the 30% - who is not angry with anything - I am telling you a lie. I, too, am angry with something and often it is myself for not getting the things done.
When you are being offended, you are likely to get angry and it is close to impossible not to get offended in our everyday life. The subordinates that never get their work done, your friends that discourage you, family members not being supportive, your spouse not being very understanding or people bad mouth about you in the office.
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I remember so well asking a girl out for an outing or a date, whatever you call it. She said okay on the phone and 10 minutes before we met, her friend brought brought her away and as a result, we did not meet at the end.
Disappointments. Who has not been disappointed? How do we handle it?
In order to handle disappointments, you will need to understand this universal principle. Being disappointed or feeling defeated is a temporary condition but giving up is what it makes it permanent.
I know those who are successful, they made it in things that they do because they never dwell in their disappointments. They move on. They continue to fight and refuse to make giving up a permanent thing to them.
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How often do you worry about the clothes you need to wear, the food you need to eat or the drink you need to take in your life? It is perfectly normal if you have this kind of worry.
However, if you do not know how to deal with your worry or anxiety, they will take away your energy and you will find it very difficult to stay in an empowering state.
Somebody describes worry as a rocking chair. You have something to do but you cannot walk.
Here are the findings of a research being done. An average person’s anxiety is focused on the following:
40% - things that will never happen
30% - things about the past that cannot be changed
12% - things about criticism by others, mostly untrue
10% - about health, which gets worse with stree
8% - about real problems that will be faced
Therefore, the source of your worries can be concluded in one word - Problems.
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One of the attributes of human nature is this - we are more than conquerors. This is why you motivation speakers often use the terms ‘unleash your potential’, ‘awaken the giant within’, ‘don’t even listen to your own critical voice’, ‘you can do it’ or ‘it births greatness within you’.
Potentials and greatness are already in each and everyone of us. In fact, we are more than conquerors.
If this is the case, why would people choose to run away when they face problems in life? It is because it is the easier way out. Playing the role as a victim often makes us feel better about ourselves and tend to put the blame on others. I did this so many times too.
A close friend of mine used to have a really bad attitude towards things happening to him in life. Not only that he remembers the past hurts and even he has positive experiences, he does not see it as something good to him.
He had the ability and energy to complain and blame others. However, he spent his effort on the wrong purpose. If he had the energy to complain, why did not he use the same energy to conquer the problem instead?
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Recently I have been appointed to be the assistant leader to lead a group of 200 hundred people. Whenever my leader is not around, I will have to take the lead to motivate them and keep them stay strong.
One of my biggest challenges is the inability to lead them to cheer for the group. It means, I will have to shout FIRST before they do. I have to lead them to shout as loud as possible, in order to make the group of 200 people look united and strong.
I often tried to avoid taking the lead and if there is a chance that I could possibly find someone else to lead the cheer, I would ask him to do for me.
As a result of my fear to shout in front of the crowd, my team performance is going down people even say that our team is the lousiest team among the rest.
I was so disappointed. It was not because of my team that looked weak or their inability to shout, but it was my fear to take the lead. The whole team went down just like that.
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A possibility thinker must be able to imagine.
I remember seeing 3 siblings who shared with me about their big dream. When I say big, I mean it is really big. The eldest brother told me about what they are going to achieve, how they are going to achieve it and the outcomes of the achievement.
Imagination, then, is the preview of your future.
I was stunned. As young as they are, they already have a big dream even many young or working adults do not dare to dream about. I see the difference and sincerity in them and I truly believe that it will come true.
The ability to imagine is far more greater than anything else a human could possess. It gives a person a direction where he wants to go. The mobile phone you are using today, the portable laptop you are carrying today and the jumbo jet that is flying on air today are the results of people’s imagination.
Helen Keller, the first deafblind person who graduated from college, said this. “The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision”. She did not have sight, as she was deafblind but she had a vision that led her to graduate from college.
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